It has taken me a lot of years and therapy to realise that I am free to choose who I associate with. That includes family. Even now it is still hard to do so. I know some of you can relate when I say, I felt like I had to have a relationship with so and so, or I didn't want to hurt their feelings. Ultimately it was me that was getting hurt trying to deal with someone that caused me extreme anxiety, upset and other hurt.
Lets look at it like a piece of fruit (probably not the best analogy but I hope it gets the point across), there is no way you would eat an apple that is brown and squishy with worms eating its way through it. Now lets compare that to a relationship with someone. They constantly judge you, use you for things that they need and want, and then say hurtful things about you. Just like the apple, why should you put up with this person. It is okay to walk away, I have done this with some family members and friends and I know I am better off without them in my life. I will admit it was hard, especially with family members, but in the end they were not going to change and I needed to move on for my mental health.
If you are unsure if a person is 'toxic' to be around here is a page I found that will help to identify them:
https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/in-flux/201608/8-common-traits-toxic-people
From psychology today, and remember always consult with a health professional if you feel like you are not coping with the world around you.
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